Archives for July 2025

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When you look in the mirror and see the scar, you may feel a rush of emotions—grief, anger, confusion, or even numbness. For many gynecologic cancer survivors, these scars aren’t just physical—they’re deeply emotional reminders of what cancer took and what it gave in return. 

Maybe your scar is from a hysterectomy, surgery, or another procedure meant to save your life. It might be tucked low on your abdomen or stretch across places you never imagined would bear the mark of illness. No matter where it is or how long it’s been, it’s valid to feel a complicated mix of things when you see it. 

You may not feel proud of your scar right now. And that’s okay. 

The world often pushes the idea that survivors should “own” their scars, wear them as a badge of honor. And while some people eventually do feel that way, others don’t. You may feel disconnected from your body, like it betrayed you or looks unfamiliar. You may mourn what was lost—not just the skin or the organs, but the sense of self that existed before cancer entered your story. 

That doesn’t make you any less of a survivor. That makes you human. 

But here’s what I hope you’ll hear today: your scar tells a story of endurance. It’s a visible thread in the tapestry of your strength. Every stitch, every mark, every healed edge is proof of how hard your body fought to keep you here. 

You didn’t choose this path, but you showed up for it with courage. And that is BEAUTIFUL. 

Maybe one day you’ll look at your scar and feel peace. Maybe you’ll never love it—but you’ll learn to live with it. And maybe, just maybe, it will start to feel like part of who you are—not the enemy, not the flaw, but a witness to your survival. 

However you feel about your scar today, know this: you are not alone. There’s no “right” way to carry what cancer leaves behind. But in every stage of healing, from resentment to acceptance, your feelings matter—and your story matters too. 

So to the survivor who feels unsure about her reflection, to the one who covers up her scar or avoids the mirror: you are still whole, still radiant, and still incredibly strong. 

Your scar doesn’t define your beauty—it redefines it. And that’s a kind of strength the world can’t see unless they’re paying attention. 

When it comes to protecting your skin, sunscreen is one of your best lines of defense—but with so many myths, types, and tips floating around, it’s easy to get confused. Let’s clear up the confusion and help you feel confident about your sunscreen choices.

Why Sunscreen Matters

First things first: UV rays from the sun can cause skin cancer, premature aging, and sunburn. Sunscreen helps block or absorb those rays before they can do damage. And no, sunscreen itself does not cause cancer. In fact, both the American Cancer Society and the American Academy of Dermatology support the use of sunscreen as a safe and effective way to reduce your risk.

Debunking Common Sunscreen Myths

• “I don’t need sunscreen because I have darker skin.”
• All skin types and tones can suffer sun damage and develop skin cancer. Everyone needs protection.
• “A high SPF means I don’t have to reapply.”
• Not true. No sunscreen lasts all day. Reapplying every 2 hours or after swimming or sweating is essential.
• “Sunscreens are waterproof.”
• Nope! No sunscreen is truly waterproof. Look for “water-resistant,” and still, reapply after water exposure.
• “I can use last year’s sunscreen.”
• Maybe, but check the expiration date. Most sunscreens are good for 2–3 years, but expired ones won’t protect as well.

Understanding the Types of Sunscreen

There are two main types of sunscreen: chemical and physical (also called mineral). Here’s how they differ:

Chemical Sunscreen

• How it works: Absorbs into your skin and converts UV rays into heat, which is then released.
• Pros: Lightweight, blends easily into the skin.
• Cons: Breaks down faster in the sun, needs more frequent application.

Physical (Mineral) Sunscreen

• How it works: Sits on the skin’s surface and blocks UV rays.
• Ingredients: Zinc oxide and/or titanium dioxide.
• Pros: Offers broad protection, less likely to irritate sensitive skin.
• Bonus: Many mineral sunscreens come tinted to blend with all skin tones.

Both types are considered safe and effective. The FDA monitors sunscreen ingredients and safety rigorously, with decades of scientific research backing them up.

What to Look For in a Sunscreen

• Broad spectrum: Protects against both UVA (aging rays) and UVB (burning rays).
• SPF 30 or higher: SPF protects mainly against UVB rays.
• Water-resistant: Gives better staying power when sweating or swimming.
• Unexpired: Always check the date.

Smart Sunscreen Habits

Even the best sunscreen won’t do much if it’s not used properly. Keep these habits in mind:

• Apply generously—most people don’t use enough.
• Don’t forget the scalp, ears, neck, arms, lips, and top of the feet.
• Apply sunscreen first before makeup.
• Reapply every 2 hours, or immediately after swimming or sweating.

Make Sunscreen Part of Your Daily Routine

Whether it’s sunny or cloudy, summer or winter, sunscreen should be part of your everyday skincare routine. Just like brushing your teeth or washing your face, protecting your skin daily is a habit worth forming.

By understanding the facts and choosing the right products, you’re taking a big step toward healthier, protected skin for life. So the next time you reach for sunscreen, you’ll know exactly what you’re doing and why it matters.

Stay sun-safe and shine on!

Rubber Ducky Sunscreen and Sky and Sol are two sunscreens that we have been loving lately, if you’re interested check them out! 

Ellen wasn’t just a name. She was a force of kindness, wisdom, and deep love. A Christian, a devoted wife, a proud mother, and grandmother, Ellen’s life was defined by service, compassion, and a fierce belief in the power of community. Above all, she was a friend—one who could be counted on through thick and thin, always ready to offer a listening ear, a word of advice, or simply share in a moment of joy.

But Ellen’s influence wasn’t limited to her family. She was an outspoken advocate for marginalized communities—especially those who often felt unseen or unheard. Whether it was supporting the LGBTQ+ community, speaking out for immigrants, or offering her time and resources to those less fortunate, Ellen’s heart was always wide open. She cared deeply, and her actions spoke louder than words.

We asked Rob, one of Ellen’s sons, and his family to tell us about Ellen: what they miss most and how they honor her legacy and here is what they had to say.

The Ellen We Miss

What do we miss the most about Ellen? It’s the small, everyday moments that were once so abundant. We miss calling her just to tell her something funny we saw, to share the latest milestone from her grandkids, or simply to gossip and chat about life. But more than anything, we miss her wisdom, acceptance, and unconditional love.

When we think of her now, we smile when we see butterflies fluttering by or when we hear the soft chime of wind chimes in the breeze. She had a special connection with nature, and we often feel her presence near the coast—the place where she instilled in us a deep love for the beach, especially Sunset Beach, NC.

A Tribute to Ellen: The Teal Diva 5K

Ellen’s legacy didn’t end with her passing. After she was diagnosed with cancer, Ellen became passionate about raising awareness for gynecological cancers, and one of the ways she sought to make a difference was through the Teal Diva 5K. She had heard about the event early in her treatment and was determined to be a part of it. In fact, she sent a message to her family, urging us to participate and support the cause. Her enthusiasm was contagious—she wanted to do anything she could to help.

But life had other plans. Ellen’s decline was swift, and she passed away on April 3, 2022, just one month before the race. Despite this, we were determined to honor her wishes and carry on her mission. And so, we put together a team in her honor, calling it “The Gospel of Ellen”—a nod to the nickname given to her Sunday School teachings by her children’s class. We walked, we ran, and we made sure that Ellen’s spirit was there with us every step of the way.

The Teal Diva Classic Volleyball Tournament: A Celebration of Life

But we didn’t stop there. Ellen’s granddaughter, Olivia, had discovered a love for beach volleyball and had already participated in a few benefit tournaments at Capt’n Bill’s, a local venue known for supporting charitable causes. Olivia suggested that we host a volleyball tournament to honor Grammy’s memory and raise awareness for gynecological cancers. It was a natural fit, and soon, the idea for the Teal Diva Classic Volleyball Tournament was born.

With Olivia’s passion for the sport and Bill’s commitment to community causes, we reached out to Capt’n Bill’s to help bring the event to life. Together, we created a special day that not only celebrated Ellen’s life but also raised funds and awareness for an important cause.

There were a total of 21 teams and $1,535 raised.

A Legacy That Lives On

Through these events, Ellen’s spirit continues to touch lives. Her advocacy for those in need, her unwavering love for her family, and her commitment to making the world a better place will never be forgotten. As we continue to celebrate her life, we are reminded that even in her absence, Ellen’s legacy is very much alive—in the lessons she taught us, the people she helped, and the causes she supported.

So, the next time you see a butterfly, hear a wind chime, or feel the breeze by the coast, take a moment to remember Ellen. Her love, her strength, and her devotion to others will forever be part of who we are. And when we gather together at events like the Teal Diva Classic Volleyball Tournament, we do so not just to raise awareness, but to honor the woman who showed us what it truly means to live with compassion and purpose.